Some people hate Halloween but others enjoy it immensely as it’s the one real night of the year where you can wear a crazy, slutty, deranged costume. You can be whom ever you want to be — no questions asked. (Except if you go is Hitler, a Nazi, or in black face. Then you might get a second glance and a possible punch in the face.)

For me, Halloween is a romantic day, much more so than Valentine’s day or Christmas because it’s the one day where you can live it up with your date and your mutual friends, you don’t have to give a gift or be on your best behaviour, and you can get smashed and wear the same attire as your romantic partner.

Halloween is also a great holiday for single people because it’s a great excuse to meet other people. Costumes and booze promote inhibition, and love sparks frequently fly between strangers.

Thinking about all this romance, I asked “Kleva4eva’, a self-proclaimed Okcupid addict and an attractive man, for some heartfelt advice for people that sadly had to experience lackluster romance this Halloween. Kleva4eva had some good ideas, mainly suggesting that:

“if you are in a dead-end relationship, you need to plan an exit strategy now, as there is still time to find someone else to snog before or on Halloween night.”

His words to those people in dead-end relationships are harsh. He writes in this article “things I have actually done to my dates. Don’t get mad, I just want to reveal that they are warning signs that the man in your life is probably using you like an iPhone 4S—only when it’s convenient for him. I’m not talking about the obvious ‘cheating on you’ signs–I am talking about general ‘I am disinterested in dating you’ signs. You should know it’s OVA when your man:”

1. No longer invites you to family holidays and special occasions. For instance, he says, “I would have invited you but I didn’t want to bring two gifts.”

2. No longer takes pictures of you or you together. Also, he does not have photos of you on social media accounts. (The latter is more questionable, because a guy might place photos of you online in hopes that it shows he is friends with some very sexy people).

What guy wouldn't want to put your picture up online?!

3. Tells you he’ll call you later, then texts later he’ll call you later, then texts later that he had a ‘RUUUUF! day’ and will text you the next day. OR perhaps he only calls you very late at night when he’s tried to make plans with other ladies’ first.

4. Tells you he does not love you, and then  a couple of days later he changes his mind and then a couple of  days later he changes his mind again. Alternatively, he may tell you that you are ‘just his friend’, then he makes out with you another day, and then he  repeats the friendship speech on a different day.

5. Goes on vacations without you – every vacation. ALTERNATIVELY, he most often goes on vacations with other people and only asks you to come when he wants to go out of town to split costs.

6. Does not make any effort to make you happy on your birthday. There are some twists on this: Maybe he takes you out for your birthday, but on a random day of the week that is convenient for him. Or maybe he does not get you a card, even though you told him how much a card would mean to you.

7. Asks you for gas money or Metro Card reimbursement when he comes to see you.

8. Goes to an event his ex is throwing over something you’ve invited him to.

9.  Ignores texts or emails about events you’ve invited him to and says he never saw them.

10.  Sees other female friends who you have never met more than he sees you. (K, I’m a LITL embarrassed 2 admit 2 that one, if my current grrl sees this I will be getting an angry phone call or maybe 20… :/)

Author: KLEVA4EVA